It’s Ok To Be Tired
I am just going to say it....I am tired. Not just cat nap tired....more like, wake me up in 3 months, tired. I used to be upset when I was tired, not understanding why so many of my friends didn't ever seem fatigued and had boundless energy. Up before the sun, going all day, and staying up until the wee hours of the morning finishing up projects. How did they function? I drag myself out of bed.....get to work, am there all day, come home to make dinner and do some laundry and am ready for bed. In fact, some mornings, I wake up and the only thing that gets me going is knowing soon....I will be going back to bed. I admit it...I am a Pajama, cozy duvet, snuggle up lover of going to bed.....because I am TIRED. The only reasonable explanation for my friends is this: They are robots.
After weeks and weeks of talking to a friend and listening to her life and all she was doing I found I was growing increasingly tired from her schedule and it seemed to be energizing her. Weird. I went to her home to return something I had borrowed and....it happened. As I was telling her what was going on with my family she fell asleep. Not "oh how cute" asleep, but "mouth hanging open" asleep. I debated waking her up but found myself continuing to carry on a conversation with myself. To say it was awkward would be an understatement, but at least I had a captive audience! Someone set a car alarm off outside that jolted her awake and she was mortified! I laughed it off and said "no big deal, you must be tired!" She started to get defensive and rattled something off about not sleeping well the night before and then stopped and said "actually, I am exhausted." She said it as if it was something to ashamed of! Like if anyone knew she was tired the world would end and peoples opinions of her would change. It dawned on me then - was it possible some of my friends were "faking" not being tired so they looked good to others? Maybe they wouldn't look like super hero's if anyone knew they fell prey to fatigue?
What's the big deal about being tired? It seems many people have a taboo idea if you admit to being tired. Well, here are a few things it DOESN'T mean to be tired:
IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE LAZY
IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE INCAPABLE
IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU GET OVERWHELMED EASILY AND CAN'T HANDLE THINGS
IT DOESN'T MEAN YOU STAY UP LATE AND ARE IRRESPONSIBLE
Here is what being tired DOES mean - to me anyways:
IT MEANS YOU MAY HAVE A LOT ON YOUR MIND. WORRYING ABOUT THE NEEDS YOU OR OTHERS MAY HAVE
IT MEANS YOU ARE GIVING A LOT OF YOURSELF TO PEOPLE
IT MEANS YOU MAY BE CARING FOR AN AGING, ILL PARENT OR A NEWBORN
IT MEANS YOU ARE A HUMAN TAXI, CHEF, MAID, CHEERLEADER AND ACCOUNTANT - AND WOULDN'T TRADE IT.
IT MEANS YOU ARE PULLED IN A LOT OF DIFFERENT DIRECTIONS AND ARE GIVING 100% IN ALL OF THEM
IT MEANS YOU ARE UP EARLY EXERCISING TO STAY HEALTHY FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY
IT MEANS YOUR LIFE IS FULL.
Don't be embarrassed of being tired. Fully embrace it! It isn't a display of weakness, being tired is a window into a full life that is visible to everyone around you. There is nothing wrong with needing 5 minutes to "rest your eyes" or sleeping in on a rainy Saturday. Be glad that you are needed, and climb out of that warm, cozy bed every morning with a whispered promise....."don't miss me, I'll be back soon"